Friends versus Acquaintances: The Only Take!

Incidents are persistently happening 2 me in my life where these two words are concerned. Sure, most people assume that they both mean the same thing. But I WANT to put a deeper and richer spin on it. A friend, in my opinion, is someone who you can rely on when things are going good for you, bad for you, they are there to encourage you when you need to be lifted up, they know you like you are apart of their family, they stick closer to you like a brother or a sister, they love you unconditionally, they are always looking out for your best interest, if you ever need anything, you can be assured that if it is in their power-they will try to assist you, they are the ones who keep in contact with you, if they know you are sick, they will check on you, they are the ones if they feel that they have gone without communicating with you for a lengthy period of time, will call you and apologize for letting it go so long and give you a plausible explanation as to why, they will do whatever they can to see that you request(s) can be fulfilled to the best of their ability, they are the ones who do not force or peer pressure you into doing some thing that you are not ready or comfortable in doing, they are people who respect and trust you, ones who do not judge you and come to your defense, they are protectors; friends look out for one another….and from all that—then that is how best friends arise, because from being a friend, the two of you know each other so well and each person has PROVEN his/her loyalty to the other, the next step is best friends. But to get to that point, you have to get to know each other over time. Friendship is earned, not given. Just like trust. Anything can break up trust just like a friendship. Wouldn’t you agree to all of these attributes of a friend? A acquaint in my opinion is someone who is trying to be your friend. There was a part on my favorite TV Show, Charmed, where Piper told her sister, Phoebe that love seems like an invitation for pain and that she could not imagine opening up to someone new & Phoebe suggested that she not start with love-in fact, she should start with thanks. That is a perfect example! In order to grow into friends—then BFF’s….then whatever, you have to give gratitude to the person and from that, a friendship can be born. Acquaints are people who you do not see on a regular, daily basis-but are the ones who are like business associates that you see at work, but not very day, people whom you see in passing, etc. If they want to become your friend, then either one or both parties will make the effort to work towards that. Me personally, I am always so ready to make people my friends, I get ahead of myself and assume that people are one way, when their actions, show me some thing totally different. You can be friends with some one for years and they can hide their true colors-but they can only stay hidden for so long. I’ve longed for friends whom I can see on a regular basis and do things with. I always have that for months, but then it dissipates and I never get it back. People tend to take kindness for weakness, but how do you really get to know someone without trying to get to know someone? If you do not try to get to know an individual and put fourth the effort, how will you ever get to know them? I have lost so man friends because of selfish reasons that I would rather not go into. People do not call me anymore; do not text me, etc. Why? I have no clue. They could be pissed off at me simply because I have not contacted them and they are use to me always contacting them first! Well, that is too tough. A friendship does NOT consist of ME DOING EVERYTHING ALL OF THE TIME! I call first, I text first, I check on them, I, I, I! I am sick of it and if they do not have enough common sense to stop and see that I am not contacting them is because I want them to realize that, they are damn fools! Period! I do not kiss anyone’s butt to keep them in my life! I have a very ground & valid reason for stating the obvious! I hate people who have not called me in months and then all of a sudden they see I am in movies, or filming with a celeb they like—now all of a sudden you want to talk to me, ur USING ME and I am not going to be bothered; or my personal favorite, they call me not to catch up with me or talk about us, they call me because they want something from me and that is it! Is that really fair? I have a sincere right to be pissed off at people like that! If they are like that, I am better off with limited friends and not a lot to begin with! I had to vent about this because something happened today to make me want to voice this-writing all this does make me feel better, but I am still hurt by the prick that let me down today, I am very disappointed in him!